We all get caught up in the whirlwind of our daily lives that sometimes we forget to stop and check in on ourselves. We overlook our own wellbeing for the sake of our jobs, our families and others.
It isn’t bad practise to put others before yourself, but it is bad practise to forget yourself completely.
Never forget that you count too!
I realised that I spend a lot of time looking out for others, both family, colleague and friend alike, and in some areas I have ignored my needs.
It was time to do a stocktake of the things I am neglecting.
It’s Ok To Say No
You’re allowed to say no and you don’t have to explain yourself when you do.
So many times I have agreed to things and in doing so have sacrificed my own needs or wants. Just because it may be easier to say yes doesn’t mean it is right.
Learn to say no if it isn’t in your best interest.
Be Generous With Yourself
Countless times I have paid for dinners, getaways or concert tickets and been promised “I’ll pay you tonight/tomorrow/next week”…in some instances I’m still waiting.
Not to mention gifts purchased for special occasions or to just do something nice for someone and my generosity has been taken for granted.
I don’t work hard for the little money I earn to have it wasted and neither does anyone else who finds themselves in the same situation.
Be generous with yourself first.
Then those who are deserving can follow.
But your generosity should not be expected. It should be earned.
Put Your Heart First
If someone says something insensitive or awful, don’t bow your head and cop it on the chin. That condones the behaviour. Your feelings count too.
You can only be the good thing that happens to people for so long before it takes its toll.
There will always be someone who is too selfish to think before they speak or too ignorant to consider another persons situation/feelings – that’s just human nature. The difference however will lie with you and whether you condone the actions or not.
Don’t let anyone dull your light.
As a little exercise, take a moment and give yourself a chance to see where you need to take stock. Make your own list and assess what you can do to make a difference for yourself. Think of the moments where you thought “Hang on a minute!” and take note of the situation. Your own checklist of the things that were negative choices or impacts can help determine which positive choices you need to make to improve your own wellbeing.