Entitled Or Enlightened

I recently came across a social media post from someone I used to socialise with 13 years ago (god that makes me feel old!). I don’t really see them much anymore (if ever) and in the course of 13 years that doesn’t surprise me because people drift apart.
I have some friends I’m lucky to see once a year due to us living far from each other, but that doesn’t change the friendship because you pick up where you left off. But when you realise with some people your common values shift or you’ve grown in different directions, you recognise that time has done you a favour because it is best to move on.
I read this persons post and realised exactly that.

In some ways I was a little surprised because they never came across as the type of person who would demand or expect anything from anyone, but their post said otherwise. It was such a passive aggressive statement I was pretty taken aback. I couldn’t understand how the person I knew could turn into this version of themselves. The post was used as a platform to tell people if they did not support them, celebrate them and agree with them in all they say and do, you were simply an enemy.

Flat out, no if’s or but’s, enemy.

Now I understand we look to others for acknowledgement and support and to be treated decently, but the worriment here is that it was demanded that they be respected and unquestioningly affirmed and if you didn’t adhere you were labelled the problem.

I’m sorry but I don’t care who you are, you don’t deserve to make those kind of demands.
They fall flat. Hypocritically flat.

Nobody has to give you support.

Nobody has to be happy for you.

Nobody has to automatically respect you.

In the great wide world, nobody owes you a damn thing.

Nothing should be expected or demanded because the things you want you should earn. Being entitled isn’t flattering and if you constantly need to find validation in others and their opinions, that’s troubling.
A person should find validation within themselves because that’s where you need to feel worthy first.

Over time I’ve learnt that the world isn’t black and white and there are many aspects to life other than what is going on in our own bubble. We all have issues and obstacles we need to overcome and even though selfishly we often think our dilemma’s are greater than another’s, we need to realise that you should never compare your battles to someone else’s and you should never feel your thoughts and feelings trump anyone elses.

It is better to impart knowledge to someone else so they understand you than it is to just assume you have the right to have expectations of others, fair or not.

Be enlightened not entitled.

After reading that person’s post it was clear to me that:
I like being around people who realise they aren’t perfect but who strive to be a better version of themselves.
I like being around people who see the views around them, not just their own.
And I like being around people who want to discuss and listen and acknowledge they aren’t always right.

But then some people won’t listen until you have nothing left to say.

xoxo Natalie

 

 

 

 

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